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5ive things I do everyday to stay positive

I consider myself a positive person. I haven’t always been like that. In fact, I dubbed myself Queen Negative Nancy. I was always frowning and cursing about any and everything. I’m not proud of those days, I’m extremely embarrassed, but I learned to turn my frown upside down.

I was in an abusive relationship many years ago and I remember praying constantly for God to fix my ex so that we could be happy together. I would even pray for God to fix me! Fix whatever it was about me that was making my ex abuse me. (Insert stupid face) It was like a slap came across my face & knocked some sense into me! I began to think, there is nothing wrong with me, I don’t have a problem, they do.

I left that horrible relationship, quickly! It took a few months of telling myself I did the right thing & that I deserve better. I would practice telling myself everyday something positive about me! I also began letting the first words out of my mouth when I woke up to be “Thank You”. Just a simple “thank you”! Over time it became a habit. No matter what I have on my agenda for the day, work or vacation, “Thank You” starts my day.

Here are five things I do everyday to keep my positive juices flowing.

1. Saying “Thank You” When I Wake Up
Practicing gratitude is a good way
to start the positive process. It may
be helpful to keep a journal of

2. Speak encouraging words to yourself
Just like in school, you have to be
taught new things. Teaching
yourself that you are worthy of love,
you are beautiful, & you matter, will
form new habits for a positive

3. Take selfies
Find your good side. See the beauty
within you. It’s there, you may have
to dig a little deeper to find the
diamond but it is there.

4. Smile at others
See if you get a smile back.
Someone may be having a bad day
and your smile may turn things
around for them or make them see
that it’s ok to smile.

5. Compliment others
Spread the positivity. Share the
wealth. When I compliment
someone who has a frown on their
face, they are shocked and a smile
begins to form. I have even
received hugs & tears because they
may have been having a bad day but
that simple compliment made them
feel better.

Learning to be positive is great for your own self-esteem but it does wonders for others as well. In order to become a more positive person you must be willing to take responsibility for your peace within. You can have a hurricane going on around you but when you have a positive outlook it gives you a peace of mind that cannot not be shaken.


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Something About The Name Mama

Mama BirthdayRance Allen & Kirk Franklin had a song years ago called ‘Something About The Name Jesus’.  It is a beautifully written song but the way Rance sings it with his riffs & runs takes it to a level that leaves you in awe!  Kirk’s composition with Rance’s dedication to the lyrics makes you feel their love for Jesus in a very powerful & melodic way.

When I hear someone ,adult or child, say “mama” it makes my heart smile. I haven’t called anyone mama in thirty years.  It just hasn’t felt right. There have many wonderful women who have stepped in the role to help raise me but non have filled that name. I and very thankful to these wonderful women & I mean no disrespect at all.  It’s hard to explain unless you’re a motherless child. There is a difference when you have grown up to know someone as mama, as in adoption.

I was speaking to a client about her mama dying & her being in her 90’s.  She said “I’m sad to lose my mama but what a blessing it’s been have had her this long”.  I agreed with her and told her my mama passed when she was 43yrs old.  I used to long to be able to say that term of endearment with someone but I know that name is precious & should be used wisely & lovingly.   My heart cries for those who have lost their mama & to the mama’s so have lost a child(ren).                              
If your mama has been a good mama to you make sure you sing her praises like Kirk Franklin & Rance Allen.  I would never want someone to be in my shoes wondering what it feels like to call someone mama.

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Unless you’ve been under a rock for the past 24 to 48hrs,  you’ve enjoyed reading the experiences attached to this hashtag by black women across the nation.

Brittany Packnett, Activist and VP for Teach For America is who we have to thank for this 1 million black women marching across twitter!

Check out just a few of the tweets below.

These tweets spoke to me because I now know that I’m not the only black woman at work dealing with the b.s.!  It’s tough being the only drop of chocolate in a cup of milk.  Especially if you are in a position of power, you have to look “approachable”, by softening your voice & smiling like a Cheshire cat. 

 It becomes tiring and we just want to be our heavy voiced, natural hair wearing, curvaceous, intellectual, articulate selves without being told were “too black” by telling us to tone it down.  We will not tone it down!  We are black and we’re not going back!  We are loud & proud!  So get over yourselves, pay us our worth & watch us take your company to the top!

For more of these witty tweets Check out my twitter (@TheMelodyLeann):

                           ~Melody Leann~

Posted in Self Help

Be Your Own Voice of Reason

There is a quote by Maya Angelou that says, “when you know better you do better.”  I somewhat agree with this quote.  I like to say, when you know better you SHOULD do better.  Most of the time we know better but we don’t always do better.  This is when we need to exercise our own voice of reason.

I had a conversation with a friend recently about her life and she told me one day it just hit her that something she had been putting off for years was going to happen this year because SHE decided it was going to happen.  No one TOLD her to do it or gave it to her on a silver platter.  SHE decided it was time because SHE realized she was holding herself back.  She knew she could do better therefore, she did!

Most of the time you will hear the voice of reason called different names.  Names like, intuition, the voice of God, and even “something”, as in “something told me”.  Whatever you call “IT”, follow IT!

Just yesterday I had the pleasure of meeting a young lady, of whom I knew nothing about, who began to tell me her story and how she wanted to know why she kept making the same mistakes over and over again.  I told her it was because she hadn’t learned the lesson.  She took the quiz but she kept failing because she wasn’t studying.  Every time I would give her a solution to one of her issues she would say yeah but…  I told her she was her downfall because she did not TRUST herself.  She got the warning sign before she approached danger but she didn’t LISTEN to her voice of reason.  She went into situation, relationship, and financial agreement one after the other ignoring her own voice.

We do not have to keep doing this to ourselves.  We can stop and make better decisions before the regrets, broken hearts, and feelings of failure if we just trust that loud but silenced voice or feeling inside of us.  Sometimes we can get a clue from someone else without them even knowing they have triggered something in us.  How many times have you purchased something because you saw an advertisement for it?  Treat your voice of reason the same way.  Don’t think about it, just listen to it, and follow it! 

Be Your Own Voice of Reason



Posted in career, Family, life, Love, personal, Religion, Smile, testimony, work

Having Faith Is Scary! 

I’ve always heard the sayings, “it just takes a little faith, step out on faith,  & where is your faith?”  The bible constantly talks about faith.  One passage states, “if you have faith the size of a mustard seed you can move mountains” (Matthew 17:20).

Recently, I’ve had to “step out on faith” and it wasn’t an easy decision to make.  Actually, it was very terrifying. I’m still terrified.  A friend & I were saying it would be awesome to have a little preview into the future. We don’t want to know every single detail, we just want to know things will be ok as for the outcome of the decision being made.  This may be why psychics are so popular, and rich.

Faith has been defined as, confidence or trust in a person or thing; faith in another’s ability.   So, what this tells me is the decision I make rest solely on what or who I believe in as a higher power.  That’s some scary s***!  I don’t know for sure you’re real, I don’t know for sure that this thing is going to work out, I don’t even know that this is the decision that I really want to make but that doesn’t matter because I’ve been groomed all my life to trust YOU…not MYSELF?

This blog post could go in 10,000 different directions from here but let’s just stick to these three!

  1. Believe in yourself!  Know that you got this, not your parents, your spouse, or even God.  Know that you without a shadow of a doubt can and will succeed in the decision you have made.
  2. Be prepared!  Prepare yourself for greater things because this is why you made that major decision right?  Right!  If you’re going between jobs, be prepared with a few coins stashed or at least have that “financial” talk with your spouse in case things move slow.  Be prepared for number three.
  3. Don’t listen to the haters/naysayers.  If you’ve got number one then go for it!  We won’t always be prepared because…that’s life.  You don’t know what’s coming your way so you can’t prepare for that.

Faith is the confidence that what we hope for will actually happen; it gives us assurance about things we cannot see.


The confidence is that belief you have, whether in yourself or a higher power.  The future/outcome is the thing you cannot see.  There would be no need for faith if we already new the outcome.  Having faith, amongst other things, makes life interesting instead of boring and predictable.

Yes having faith is scary but without it we would not dare to change things.

If it were not for sadness how would you know when you are happy?

If it were not for sickness how would you know when you are healthy?

If it were not for darkness how would you appreciate the sunlight?

The positive and the negative balance each other…the yin and the yang.

60 Faith Based Scriptures




Posted in belief, Family, life

A Visit From St. Nicholas

By Clement Clarke Moore

‘Twas the night before Christmas, when all through the house
Not a creature was stirring, not even a mouse;
The stockings were hung by the chimney with care,
In hopes that St. Nicholas soon would be there;
The children were nestled all snug in their beds;
While visions of sugar-plums danced in their heads;
And mamma in her ‘kerchief, and I in my cap,
Had just settled our brains for a long winter’s nap,
When out on the lawn there arose such a clatter,
I sprang from my bed to see what was the matter.
Away to the window I flew like a flash,
Tore open the shutters and threw up the sash.
The moon on the breast of the new-fallen snow,
Gave a lustre of midday to objects below,
When what to my wondering eyes did appear,
But a miniature sleigh and eight tiny rein-deer,
With a little old driver so lively and quick,
I knew in a moment he must be St. Nick.
More rapid than eagles his coursers they came,
And he whistled, and shouted, and called them by name:
“Now, Dasher! now, Dancer! now Prancer and Vixen!
On, Comet! on, Cupid! on, Donner and Blitzen!
To the top of the porch! to the top of the wall!
Now dash away! dash away! dash away all!”
As leaves that before the wild hurricane fly,
When they meet with an obstacle, mount to the sky;
So up to the housetop the coursers they flew
With the sleigh full of toys, and St. Nicholas too—
And then, in a twinkling, I heard on the roof
The prancing and pawing of each little hoof.
As I drew in my head, and was turning around,
Down the chimney St. Nicholas came with a bound.
He was dressed all in fur, from his head to his foot,
And his clothes were all tarnished with ashes and soot;
A bundle of toys he had flung on his back,
And he looked like a pedler just opening his pack.
His eyes—how they twinkled! his dimples, how merry!
His cheeks were like roses, his nose like a cherry!
His droll little mouth was drawn up like a bow,
And the beard on his chin was as white as the snow;
The stump of a pipe he held tight in his teeth,
And the smoke, it encircled his head like a wreath;
He had a broad face and a little round belly
That shook when he laughed, like a bowl full of jelly.
He was chubby and plump, a right jolly old elf,
And I laughed when I saw him, in spite of myself;
A wink of his eye and a twist of his head
Soon gave me to know I had nothing to dread;
He spoke not a word, but went straight to his work,
And filled all the stockings; then turned with a jerk,
And laying his finger aside of his nose,
And giving a nod, up the chimney he rose;
He sprang to his sleigh, to his team gave a whistle,
And away they all flew like the down of a thistle.
But I heard him exclaim, ere he drove out of sight—
“Happy Christmas to all, and to all a good night!”
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What happened to Thanksgiving? 

As long as I’ve been alive there has always been twelve months in a year. This year I think we eleminated one, November. We went from sunflowers in September, Pumpkins & Halloween in October, to Santa Claus & Jingle Bells in December. 
What happened to November?   WHAT HAPPENED TO THANKSGIVING?

I remember being in the store in October, seeing Halloween candy, costumes, and fall decor. As soon as November 1st came, the Christmas season started.  It upset me because I’m a very thankful person. I’m appreciative of my life, the people in my life, and the things I have.  Although I give thanks all year, “society” waits until November to appreciate & give thanks. 

In a world of selfies, self-love, self-identity, me, myself, and I; we NEED November! We NEED Thanksgiving! This world is in trouble and the last thing we need to do is take away humility! We took away prayer/moment of silence in schools. Now we’re going eliminate being thankful. 

Well not me! I’m thankful on Thanksgiving for life, health, & love. Every day I’m thankful but today I want to share those things with those I don’t see often. I want to put on my best outfit, eat my favorite foods & laugh until I cry. 

Happy Thanksgiving Y’all!