I consider myself a positive person. I haven’t always been like that. In fact, I dubbed myself Queen Negative Nancy. I was always frowning and cursing about any and everything. I’m not proud of those days, I’m extremely embarrassed, but I learned to turn my frown upside down.
I was in an abusive relationship many years ago and I remember praying constantly for God to fix my ex so that we could be happy together. I would even pray for God to fix me! Fix whatever it was about me that was making my ex abuse me. (Insert stupid face) It was like a slap came across my face & knocked some sense into me! I began to think, there is nothing wrong with me, I don’t have a problem, they do.
I left that horrible relationship, quickly! It took a few months of telling myself I did the right thing & that I deserve better. I would practice telling myself everyday something positive about me! I also began letting the first words out of my mouth when I woke up to be “Thank You”. Just a simple “thank you”! Over time it became a habit. No matter what I have on my agenda for the day, work or vacation, “Thank You” starts my day.
Here are five things I do everyday to keep my positive juices flowing.
1. Saying “Thank You” When I Wake Up
Practicing gratitude is a good way
to start the positive process. It may
be helpful to keep a journal of
2. Speak encouraging words to yourself
Just like in school, you have to be
taught new things. Teaching
yourself that you are worthy of love,
you are beautiful, & you matter, will
form new habits for a positive
3. Take selfies
Find your good side. See the beauty
within you. It’s there, you may have
to dig a little deeper to find the
diamond but it is there.
4. Smile at others
See if you get a smile back.
Someone may be having a bad day
and your smile may turn things
around for them or make them see
that it’s ok to smile.
5. Compliment others
Spread the positivity. Share the
wealth. When I compliment
someone who has a frown on their
face, they are shocked and a smile
begins to form. I have even
received hugs & tears because they
may have been having a bad day but
that simple compliment made them
Learning to be positive is great for your own self-esteem but it does wonders for others as well. In order to become a more positive person you must be willing to take responsibility for your peace within. You can have a hurricane going on around you but when you have a positive outlook it gives you a peace of mind that cannot not be shaken.